Best Dating Apps for Relationships
Ready for Commitment? Want Substance Over Superficiality? These Dating Apps Are for You
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Sick of spending every Friday night alone??Tired of first dates that go nowhere and unfulfilling "situationships"? Are you finally ready to take your dating life seriously and find your forever person?
You can reach out to friends and family for connections, or you can do what?most?singles are doing in the 21st century and turn to your smartphone.?Dating apps were created to make finding your next relationship easier.
With so many different platforms to choose from (and plenty of members signed on for a good time, not a long time), trying to find a serious match who's here for the right reasons can?feel kind of impossible. If you're starting to get burned out from your online search for "the one," it might be time to reevaluate your strategy —?and the apps or sites that you're using —?in order to find your perfect person.
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If this sounds a lot like your current online dating life, it's time to rethink the process and platforms you've become accustomed to,?and try using something new. We asked a few dating experts for their best tips and advice on which dating apps will help you find a match who's also looking for commitment.
Here are some?recommendations for the best apps to use if you're ready to settle down, along with a few smart strategies that will help you find her in no time.
Finding a Serious Relationship
Are you done with the awkward hookups and unsatisfying one-night stands? Do you yearn to spend time with someone you care about, and are excited to see on a regular basis? Are you looking to be attracted to someone's mind and spirit, rather than just their body?
These are signs that you're ready for a serious relationship, and in the age of hookup culture, that can confusing.
How do you separate the potential relationship partners from all the casual daters? How do you put yourself out there without getting hurt? Nowadays, one of the easiest ways to find a relationship involves using the right dating apps for your needs – the dating apps that prepare people for marriage, and screening out those people who aren't looking for a serious, long-term relationship.
We have sound?advice on how to do that, as well as which apps offer you the best chance of finding a significant other.
How to Use Dating Apps to Find a Serious Relationship
If you're struggling to find what you want on a dating app (read: someone who's interested in finding a serious relationship), one challenge you may be up against is that you're not sure what your matches are looking for.
Elena Murzello, author of "The Love List: A Guide to Getting What You Want," says to take a cue from this, and make your own intentions clear on your profile.
"Saying, 'I'm interested in marriage and settling down immediately' comes across too strong," she says, "but something like, 'I'm looking for a committed relationship' opens up the conversation."
When writing your bio, Murzello says to keep it short and sweet, and include what a potential long term partner would want to know about you.
"Complete a solid profile. Having photos that showcase your personality is key: Do they invite others to want to get to know the real you? Keep in mind that no one has time to read a novel, so write succinctly and include your interests!"
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As far as determining whether or not your matches are here for the real thing, Murzello says a picture's worth a thousand words.
"Look at the photos carefully," she suggests. "Are these all half-naked photos? Maybe the person is looking for a hot hookup. Are they half drunken photos? She's probably partying and not looking for something serious."
Low-quality photos or profiles without a bio are also signs that this person isn't putting much effort in, and isn't looking for something serious.
The time of day or night that you are?typically chatting with a match can also be a telltale sign of what she's looking for.
"Pay attention to when they're making conversation with you," says Lauren Levine, dating expert and co-host of The Margarita Confessionals. "Is it during the workday when they're bored and trying to pass the time? Is it really late at night? This is probably someone who's not looking for a relationship. Also, the conversation should have substance to it. If it's just, 'How was your weekend?' or 'What are you doing today?' for days on end, they're probably not looking to get to know you on a deeper level."
Levine says to also keep this rule of thumb in mind when you're messaging matches.
"If they have a real conversation and want to get to know you as well, they're probably interested in something more," she says. "If you're getting one-line responses, they're probably not trying to invest in someone. Also, meet up as soon as you feel comfortable. It's so much easier to understand what someone is like and what they're looking for when you're with them face to face."
How to Avoid Scams When Looking for a Serious Relationship Online
Are you using dating apps for marriage? Unfortunately, you're at special risk of being targeted by scammers, catfishers, frauds and other malicious people, who might target you for your personal or financial information. Identity theft and credit card fraud exploded with the growth of the internet, and dating apps are a new vector along which scammers are targeting vulnerable people.
To minimize your risk, follow a few commonsense practices:
- Choose a dating app that offers in-built security features and actively attempts to filter out fake users, bots, etc
- Never share any personal or identifying information with a stranger, including your home address
- Never click a link to an external website shared over a dating app
- Never agree to pay for anything for another person over a dating app
Follow the above tips and you'll be able to enjoy online dating without worry.
The Best Dating Apps for Serious Relationships
Coffee Meets Bagel
The more potential matches you have, the more likely it is that you're going to find the right woman for you, right? According to James Anderson, dating expert at Beyond Ages, this way of thinking can actually end up backfiring when you're in the market for something more serious.
"Many dating apps and dating sites are essentially a numbers game," he says. "You look through hundreds of profiles, message dozens of people, and maybe get a few dates. With Coffee Meets Bagel things are very different. You receive a daily match that is properly filtered to be in line with what you are looking for.
Since you only get one match a day, each person actually takes the time to review the match instead of making a decision in two seconds based on the photo."
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You've seen the commercials, you've heard the success stories, and while you've probably toyed with the idea of putting money behind your search for a relationship, you still haven't pulled the trigger. If you haven't recognized the theme here, let us be straightforward with you: The more involved a dating app is, the less likely users will use it for low-commitment casual encounters.
There are plenty of functionalities you get with Match that make the process more straightforward, from algorithms that point out similarities when viewing profiles to the ability to upload more than a handful of photos, so that you get a fuller picture of the person you're chatting with.
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The League operates under a similar limited match system as Coffee Meets Bagel. In fact, you may even have to wait?to sign up, whether that's a few days or a few?months depending on the user base available where you live. After you jump through those hoops, you're given three matches per day based on the preferences that you outline, which include proximity and age.
While getting started on The League can take a while, the app’s acceptance process does ensure that the people using it are taking it seriously. The League will actually kick inactive users off after two weeks, which ensures the people you're matching with are actually using it.
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Online dating burnout can happen to anyone,?but for relationship-focused women who are getting grimy messages sent to their dating app inboxes on the regular, this can end up making them throw the towel in. Bumble combats this by making the app's messaging features ladies' choice.
"One of the biggest turn offs from online dating is that women are absolutely bombarded with messages from guys," explains Anderson. "This can turn a lot of eligible women off and lead to some uneven power dynamics with many online sites. With Bumble, once you match with a potential partner the woman must make the first move. This allows for a better experience for women, a high quality of users, and overall a better experience for everyone."
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If you're tired of trying to determine your compatibility with potential matches based on a few photos and the three emojis they include in their bio, look no further than Elite Singles. In order to sign up, members need to complete a comprehensive personality test, which is then used to identify matches in your area.
After you're signed up, the site sources 7-10 potential matches per day, which eliminates the time suck of swiping back and forth,?and makes for a more commitment-oriented user base (because no one in their right mind is going to spend 45 minutes on a questionnaire if they're just trying to get lucky).
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In case you haven't been paying attention to billboard ads, the O.G. dating site OkCupid is having a rebranding moment, positioning themselves as a relationship-focused app. This means chances are high that single women in your area have recently re-downloaded this app in hopes that this isn't some false advertising. No joke, OkCupid has become one of the go-to apps for marriage-minded daters.
Commercials aside, there are features on OkCupid that lend well to finding a match that's looking for the same level of commitment you are. For starters, the platform features a more comprehensive profile, which allows members to fill out their interests, what their typical Friday night looks like and what they're doing with their lives, giving you a more well-rounded idea of who you're chatting with.
You can also search using keywords (think "commitment" or "looking for something serious"). Depending on how many questions your match has answered on issues that are typically off the table for first date talk like politics and religion, you're also given a percentage of compatibility to see what your odds are.
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From its inception, Hinge billed itself as "the dating app designed to be deleted," and they've held to that promise over the years. The member profiles are thorough, detailed, and personality-oriented, rather than short and superficial. There are over 5 million Hinge users worldwide, most of them concentrated between the ages of 24 and 32, and they're disproportionately college-educated, so if you're living in a city and looking for love rather than hookups, this is a great place to start.
And because they're more invested in quality than quantity, there are very few catfishes, fake profiles, or wishy-washy people unsure of what they want in a significant other. If you've used other, more short-term oriented apps (looking at you, Tinder!), then you know how refreshing that is.
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Similar to Coffee Meets Bagel (and true to its name), Once gives you one match per day based on your preferences. You also won't come across any blurry, low quality photos on the app, since there's a team that verifies each profile photo uploaded to ensure it's of good quality (which can take up to 24 hours).
While not as extensive as some of the other apps on this list, there are a list of questions you'll have to answer in order for the app to start curating potential matches. Your daily match expires within 24 hours, which means users stay engaged in order to make sure they don't miss out.
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